What I Learned: Year Two


After the boys turned one, I put together a post about what I had learned during the first year. I tried to keep a running list and jot things down as they popped into my head but can't say that happened too frequently. It's always harder to sit down and write on such a broad, yet specific topic but here's what's come to mind. Another year in, here's what I've learned year two:
  • No matter how conscientious you are, you will still lose stuff constantly (drives me crazy!). Hopefully it's easily replaceable with a click on Amazon.
  • Even though you’re not washing bottles and pump parts anymore, you’re still going to need gloves b/c you’re still washing stuff constantly. 
  • Along the same line, straw cups have plenty of annoying parts to clean.
  • Eating lunch out still involves a lot of prep and clean up (snacks, etc).
  • I was warned early not to buy many shoes because their feet grow so fast. I ignored and that  ended up working out as W has smaller feet so the shoes always get plenty of use. What I didn’t account for was their preferences and G’s love of his driving shoes (--> this was written a while ago, luckily he doesn't only want the mocs anymore! which I did buy in next 4 sizes...)
  • Rotate toys. Even baby toys we thought they were over, when brought up to sell, they were crazy about again, at least for a few days.
  • Your kids will amaze you in what they can all of a sudden do or say one day.
  • Kids as so resilient - they’ll survive taking away the bottle, etc.
  • Your clothes will get stained. Buy more of your favorites, especially if on sale.
  • Never-ending search for 'mom shoes' -- cute, but comfortable enough to wear for several miles of walking each day.
  • Stock up on mailing tape - you’ll be fixing books daily — or don’t bother at all i guess! (luckily this has seriously subsided)
  • You'll do things you never thought you would -- like allow food in the car... 
  • Sand never comes out of shoes completely, no matter how much you shake.
  • It’s amazing how much they can put away during a meal (or how little they can eat other days). Become okay with this and trust them to decide how much they need to eat.
  • You'll find yourself talking constantly, and pretty soon they will be too!
  • You'll be frustrated when you can't understand something they're saying, especially when you're able to discern what sounds like a jumbled mess to any outsider
  • Kids are watching everything 
  • Always fully check yourself out in the mirror before leaving the house, even if you just put on clean clothes… 
  • Big legos hurt just as much small ones when you step on them.
  • Potty training is obviously hard, but worth a try if you're picking up signs they may be ready. Every kid is different and it may be easier than you think!
  • There are certain things I've always been wrong about -- who would do something first (like crawl -- but most recently that G would be harder to potty train. 
  • You'll find yourself shouting 'Look, digger!' when driving then realize you're the only one in the car.
  • If you find a pair of pants (or really any clothing) that you love the fit of, color, style, etc., buy more! Bigger sizes, back ups, etc. Over the first 2 years, there are certain pieces of clothing (usually basics as I surprisingly get sick of even the cutest pieces once they've gotten through two boys and an extended period of time) that I wish they would never outgrow, and unfortunately aren't continuously carried -- Boden skinny colored chinos, Zara skinny khakis to name a few.
  • The forums on GGMG are so addicting but are so helpful -- to give you answers to your questions, to reassure you (or, it's terrible, but to make you feel better when you read about some of the crazy situations people are in)
  • In a similar way, how connected you feel to bloggers you follow, despite obviously not knowing them in real life.
  • That I could chair a Junior League committee in my 'spare' time and I really enjoyed doing it.
  • You can teach your kids to put away one toy before taking out another, even at 2. This works best with bigger toys with lots of different parts. I don't mind having a few toys out otherwise.
  • It's surprising when you go through their books and all of a sudden realize that most of them are way too 'little' for them, too babyish.
  • You're never done and nothing is ever for forever. Just because your child is a good eater at 14 months, doesn't mean they will be at 22 months (but hopefully!). Same with sleep. Keep this in mind and be thoughtful when talking to other parents about your kids.
  • Don't throw away food too quickly, especially at breakfast, mine like to eat a second course about an hour after waking up.
  • It is the coolest feeling when they can really tell you what they want.
  • The power of giving choices.
  • That it's really difficult to figure out a strategy for discipline that's fits your family.
  • That disciplining twins seems even more challenging because when you're disciplining one, the other one goes and does the same thing just to get attention.
  • We need to be spending more time 1 on 1 with them and give them time apart (though I've never thought of them as clingy, they definitely don't like going in the car if the carseat next to them is empty).
  • Their weight/size is totally relative. When G was W's size (like a million years ago), he felt SO heavy. W at that same weight now feels light because I'm comparing it to lifting a 5-pound-heavier G.
  • Putting them in their bed and leaving the room is okay, when you can't think of a better way to handle them
  • The adjustable waist pants that roll at the bottoms can literally last me a year between these two
  • You’ll repeat constantly - so others can understand, so they know you know what they’re saying and so they learn the more complete way to say what they’re saying
  • They will go through phases with food -- eat as many as 3 bananas a day for months and then not like them anymore. Continue to offer and hopefully they'll eventually like them again
  • Simply shaking shoes is not sufficient to get sand out. There's a squeeze technique that usually does the trick but some even need the insoles taken out.
  • Sand gets everywhere, no way around it. Look for cuffed or rolled pants or jacket pockets have also been an unlikely culprit too.
  • Personalities will change - the 'easy going one' can become more high maintainence
  • There's more and more that you're capable of doing on your own, like taking them for a haircut.
  • When your twins are acting cute, others will wish they had twins. When they’re acting crazy, they’ll be so grateful they don’t. 
  • Potty-trained young toddlers won't change your life, potty-trained young toddler who can pull their pants up and down WILL. 
  • Suspenders are useless during potty training, but can be reintroduced after a few months... you'll just have to be nearby to help when they need to go.
  • I've heard all about the 'terrible twos' but this is definitely my favorite age so far. I love how independent they are and the potty-training really took them to the next level as far as becoming real little humans ;) The amount they can communicate is such a nice change and the things they say just make me smile.
I can't even begin to imagine what my list will look like next year!

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