Coco, 3 Years Old



Our girl is 3 years old! It will always be crazy to think about where we were in the days leading up to, and then the months following Coco's birth, especially when we see where she is now. We just got her paperwork filled by the doctor for her preschool and it's always reassuring when then can write 'healthy' across the health section. We feel so blessed that she's just your typical 3-year-old.

We've just finished up most of her classes and since most of the places she does classes at end up doing summer camps for school-aged kids during the summer, we aren't really able to do much for her this summer. She'll do two weeks of camp in July at her preschool which will be a nice introduction to the program with a smaller number of kids. Then she'll do one week of outdoor camp with W&G -- all three of them together should be interesting! Between the weeks we're gone and the week's we're just doing adventures with the boys, there are only a couple weeks that it will just be her and I think summer so we'll find our own adventures to do. The boys don't get out for a couple more weeks, but like I said, most of her classes have ended, so it will be a a bit quiet for us until they're out of school.






We got to do another session of outdoor class in the Presidio with teacher Gia and Coco was the oldest since the class typically only goes up to age 2.5, but they were fine with her doing it one last session. She loved collecting rocks, stomping in the stream and climbing trees. On Tuesdays she had Rabbit Hole and that was different this time around as it was a big class of maybe 12 kids, versus just a couple last time. I think it was fun for her to be with so many others, though yet again, she tended to be on the older side. Many kids go to preschool at 2 in the city so I find that many of the classes that are 18mos-3 skew younger. We did a session of soccer for the first time and she liked it. She got right in there. We have one more class left of our other outdoor class and we've enjoyed visiting different spots in the city; we're finishing at Ocean Beach on Wednesday. Thursdays have been swim class downtown and Fridays she did her drop-off art class which has been a hit. The teacher kept telling me how much fun it was to have Coco in class as she just gets right in there with everyone, warms up so easily and just goes with the flow. She's really grown so much this year and I'm so glad she had the opportunity to do some drop-off classes to prepare her for the fall. I'm confident she'll do great at Calvary.










EAT: Thankfully we're still in a good place with eating, for the most part. It's been really difficult to make sure she drinks her drink with miralax mixed in each afternoon, especially since she has to have it within a fairly short amount of time and not just finish it whenever. Some days she does fine and other days it's a total battle and it goes against our approach to food, which is more about offering them good choices but it's up to them to eat it. I worry that she'll start to show resistance at mealtime but for the most part she's done okay. There are times she asks for certain foods and I'll give her a different option and eventually when she sees I'm not giving in, she will take it. Lately it seems like she's always hungry which is turning into her eating what seems like all the time. I need to work on making sure she's eating enough during a meal (which it seems like she is!) and then reminding her the next time food will be offered, and nothing in between. There are certainly things she doesn't like and that's fine, but the list doesn't seem to be getting too long. George has been in a bad phase with food and 'yucking the yum' which does affect her so we're working on that. She loves lentil soup, chicken, sausage, any meat really, most fruits (she's been eating an apple each day) and eggs. Sandwiches have also been a hit lately, including a little bit of salad lettuce and mustard.















SLEEP: Unfortunately since we started her potty program 2 months ago, she really hasn't napped. Her naps were already mostly gone before that point, but we got a nap maybe once or twice a week, which seemed to be just what she needed. I still attempt to put her down on days when we have enough time in case she does nap, but she'll just sit in her bed with her books and animals and talk for 45 minutes before I get her up. Some days she even asks to go into her bed to do this kind of play. I've also done a quiet time a bit more regularly and ask her to stay in her room and play and she's starting to get the hang of it. She entertains herself so well generally, so this does work well, but never ends up in her sleeping. You'd think she'd go right to bed at 7pm, and there are nights she does, but I feel like more often than not, we still have her on the potty, or aren't sure if she's done so she stays up even later. She used to make up for it by sleeping in, but that never happens anymore and typically we hear her a little before her sun clock comes on at 6:45. She talks about being tired after various points in the day (usually when she's upset or I'm having to talk to her about not listening or something), she uses it as an excuse, but this even happens on days I've put her down for a nap. She used to do so well even without a nap -- she's definitely a George in energy level -- but now we're seeing more signs of her not getting enough sleep. She's back in pull-ups at night and has been since spring break and I was hoping that would give her better sleep at night and get things back on track. It's not terrible, but I do feel like she needs more sleep and I'm not sure exactly how to get that.




Coco still sleeps in her crib and though we know the end is near, we're not pushing moving her to a bed quite yet. She has climbed out, but it feels like forever ago now, and it was short-lived. We gave her the option of sleeping in a bed at the Legoland Hotel and maybe it was the excitement of everything but it didn't work out and I had to put her in the pack-and-play to get her to sleep. She tells us here and there that she's going to sleep in the big bed but I'm trying to hold on through Cincinnati and ideally Sonoma in August. While I think there's a good chance that she'd still sleep in the travel crib or Ma's crib even if she did move into the big bed at home, I think it's probably easier to stay consistent and not really give her that option yet. It will definitely change our travel moving forward to need her in a bed, either sharing with one of the boys, or needing another bed/room. In Sonoma we have another bed and bedroom for her but it will also serve as the guest for anyone coming or when my mom stays over and it's so nice to just have Coco in her crib in our room whenever we need the extra space. I know there are little inflatable kids beds so we may try that when the time comes.

PLAY: Coco's play has changed over the past two months since her potty stuff has started. She used to play so independently, could chat away at her dollhouse for an hour or longer. For some reason that shifted, I guess we had to be with her so much more. Reading has been number one and we've read hundreds of books to her on the potty. I'm so glad we were able to avoid creating a habit of giving her the phone while on the potty. I wasn't sure we'd be able to but she's done fine with books. Her dollhouse has been on the outs and I actually am just about to get rid of her first dollhouse as I've had another one in the closet for awhile when I got it on sale and just got it out for her birthday. She likes it okay but hasn't returned to the height of her dollhouse days :)



Imaginary play is still very popular. She loves to 'go on a trip' or 'go to a sleepover' which mostly involves her taking out everything in her dresser -- 8 pairs of shoes, tons of clothes and this morning I was surprised when she got her little bag out (that I pack her bows in for trips, though I didn't realize she knew that) and had about 30 bows packed in there. She still likes to dress up, though we avoided that for a bit too when she was in the early days of this new potty program. She got a Bitty Baby for her birthday and has enjoyed playing with her, but maybe not as much as I thought she would.

Coco loves to read by herself too, my mom actually suggested we get her a little tent for the corner of her room as she likes to sit back there with a big stack of books. She does the same when she sets up our fire engine tent in the living room. I did some research and picked out one of those hanging bed canopies that can be hung from the ceiling and is just light fabric so I think that will be a nice spot for her to sit under.

She's also been more into art at home, which I am not good about initiating with her, but luckily I don't really have to. She goes into the art cart, gets markers and paper, and most recently, she's really into scissors. She's really made good progress with her grip and she's able to cut a lot on her own which is impressive as I've never really worked with her on it. Though anything can happen, she's been really good about drawing on or cutting only paper.

As we approach her heading into preschool, I'm more aware of what she knows and doesn't know. She knows her ABCs, can identify the letter C, but still calls letters numbers. She can count fairly high up and can identify a few numbers. She's finally making some progress on her scooter, but still can't turn without stopping, taking her feet off, maneuvering it and then getting back on (instead of leaning on the handle). She doesn't know how to pedal a tricycle. Her swimming is getting even better and many times she can swim maybe 8ft. She has great strength and when she comes up for a breath and her feet sink, she's able to get her legs back up to keep going. It doesn't always look pretty but she's getting the hang of it.



TALK: Her language is improving as she's able to say certain sounds she wasn't able to before, like actually saying 'George' instead of 'gorge'. I asked the doctor about her 's's as she says pin, top, etc for 'spin' and 'stop' or other 's' works followed by a consonant, but apparently it's not a red flag until they're 6 years old. I remember they said the same when I asked about George and sure enough, when we focused on it at 5 years old, he was able to work it out on his own.



POTTY: We're just over 2 months into this program and I think we're finally making some good progress. She's always done pretty well but even if we had a few good days in a row, there would be an accident. It's hard because she does great the majority of the time -- even if we're out and about, like in Golden Gate Park, she'll tell me she has to go and go on a little potty no problem. That leads me to give her more freedom to tell me when she has to go instead of forcing her to try at certain times, but then she'll have an accident right after I ask her to go and it just brings me back to the reality that she's still not totally there. Her accidents are 90% pee now, almost always at home and are definitely getting rarer -- maybe once or twice a week, and usually attributable to something I should've done differently like taken her before we were going to be in the car awhile. With that said, when she has had an accident, she's made no effort to go or to tell me she had to. We've had a good few days so hopefully we're heading in the right direction. I've only talked to the doctor twice in the last month as I feel confident in how to handle any setbacks she's having. Finally we adjusted her exlax dose earlier this week so she's gone from 6 squares down to 5.5 squares and as long as she continues to initiate and not have accidents, we'll continue to go down by half a square every two weeks, which will put us into October to have her done with it, should everything sty on track... which I'm not counting on. She still has 2 capfuls of miralax in the afternoon, which combined with the exlax usually causes her to go to the bathroom between 6-7pm, when we know we'll be home. It's getting easier as she'll sit in the bathroom looking at books on her own, get off when she's done and go back if she needs to. She's great about getting out of the tub if she has to go, leaving the dinner table, etc. and we're past the point where it's a run-or-she-won't-make-it type of thing. I'm praying everything stays on track as we wean her off the meds. Apparently weaning to quickly does often lead to withholding again so we're definitely taking our time.

STATS:
Weight: 32lbs 4oz (27 lbs 1 year ago)
Height: 38.1 inches (34 inches 1 year ago)
Shoes: 8
Clothes: 3T


Colette, it seems like just a bit before you turned three we got a warm welcome to the Terrible Twos. We've gotten more of the dramatic tantrums in the last month or so then I remember seeing at any phase before. Maybe you are right on track and acting like a 'Threenager'. There's tons of attitude, a simple but firm 'no' when asked to do something and everything has to be your way. If I suggest anything, you better bet you're going to say No! and want to do only the exact opposite. Some of my old tricks still work, and I continue to try to give you freedom and choices but man, there's been so much screaming, 'NO!'s and whining lately that I just don't remember from earlier this year. Dad and I are trying to be patient but also being clear about what is not okay. We've been working on manners and I have to say that you have made progress in the past few weeks. When you don't use your manners, I'll continue to acknowledge you by looking at you, but won't respond until you say please and you have started catching on quickly. I must calmly say, 'tell me in a different way/voice' 20 times a day as you demand things with whining, shouting or attitude. I'm sure the whole potty situation and your loss of control with that isn't helping anything but as we get that on track, I hope everything else will improve along with it. I'm so proud of your progress on the potty and am hopeful it will continue to be close to fully resolved by the time you start preschool. That was our goal and I'm so glad we decided to start when we did. I know it's not fun to have to drink your drink (though thankfully you're still into the exlax chocolates!) and even though we put in your drink of choice -- chocolate milk, lemonade, apple juice or smoothies, I'm still having to hound you to finish it which isn't fun. Though this part of this phase has to be captured, let's move on to the fun. As I sat down to fill out your preschool paperwork, having to describe you, at first I was stumped. I didn't want to just describe the phase you're in, or any toddler as I'm sure many characteristics are common at this stage, but I settled on independent first of all. You play so well on your own at home and do great entering new situations. You may cling to me for a moment, but very quickly warm up and like a typical younger sibling, find your way very quickly. Dad and I agreed on imaginative as well. You have a strong imagination and come up with great stories, names for your babies and games. Despite the current attitude, I would still describe you as a happy girl and you've been described by a handful of different people over your past three years of having a 'zest for life'. While at home I think you know you rule the roost, when you're out with others, you're a kind friend and are sweet with littler ones. You'll stand your ground and are at a point where you can do that successfully verbally (and rather calmly) in public whereas in the comfort of your own home, it's a different story ;) You have plenty of opinions of your own and often know just what you want. You're a good helper when you want to be, but often will tell me 'no' when I ask you and you do not like cleaning up. You do love helping me in the kitchen and prep meals with me any chance you get. You're getting quite good at cracking eggs too. You love chocolate, in fact, I don't think you've had another flavor of ice cream. You don't like bacon, whipped cream or syrup (!!). You eat more than William and are just as messy as George. You and George are two peas in a pod though you've recently realized the power you have in your words and have been saying 'George is my best friends, I don't like William'. This is something we're working on from multiple angles. You and William have so much fun together when it's just the two of you but the dynamic changes when it's all three. You always want to be one of the gang and are quick to request your 'special time' the minute Dad walks in the door (despite the hours of special time you've gotten that day from Mom!). You are so lucky to have a dad who gives you his undivided attention to dance with you, dress up all your friends or play dollhouse. I've gotten to take the boys to school on my own many mornings as Dad's been able to stay home with you and you love that time so much. Summer will be different with your brothers home, or you in camp and before we know it, you'll be at Calvary each morning. I'm so excited for you and know you're gonna do great but it will be so odd to have you away. I'll be packing my three free hours each morning so that I can hopefully be able to give you my undivided attention for a bit before we add your brothers to the mix each afternoon. I look forward to ladies lunches with you after school since you'll actually eat just about anything. I feel so lucky to have had these three years at home with you all to myself but look forward to seeing you grow this year. Happy 3rd Birthday, we love you Cokes!







George, 6 Years Old



As their kindergarten year winds down and as I think about where the boys were last year, it's amazing to see how much they've grown. I do lunch duty often at their school and within an hour and a half, you see the lunch room grow from the smallest boys to the biggest... 8th graders who are well over 6 feet tall. Now in May, even the kindergarteners look bigger and don't seem almost too-small to be at this big-kid school. William and George had their switch day on Friday, a day last year when they first visited Town for a 'real' school day. This year, they spent the morning in the first grade rooms. They've both had a great first year of school and while I think both prefer being home with mom and dad most, they both really like Town School. Dave and I have been so impressed with every aspect of the school and the community and feel so lucky the boys get to be in such a creative and caring school environment that brings out the best in teaching only boys.




George has adjusted well to school and I've been pleasantly surprised to hear that he generally is a good listener in class. He has so much energy that I thought sitting in school for the long day could be hard, even though I know the school does a great job of keeping the kids moving. When I specifically asked, the teacher said occasionally he is silly and needs to be reminded to listen, but he's not one of the boys she's regularly working on that with. George tends to be quiet when he's with the whole class, not contributing much, but thankfully the class breaks out so frequently when he's with half the class, or even just a couple of kids and in all those situations he seems to be more than comfortable in sharing and answering questions, in fact, he's been called a leader in those situations. George loves learning choice where he gets to choose what he wants to play with, but he's also really enjoyed Theater Arts.  He seems to get along with the other boys fine and from what I hear from him, always has other kids to play with but I don't think he's built his little crew yet. I'm thankful that despite this, he hasn't clung to William. In fact, it seems that he and William spend very little, if any, time together at school. When I asked the other day, they told me they both had been shooting baskets together, with other friends too, but it's not like they were talking. I give them both a lot of credit  for finding their own way at school this year and not depending on each other.




George is progressing with his reading. He was strong in the beginning with learning sight words so initially did better with the Bob books. Lately, it's been more of a fight to get him to do his reading but I think that's because he's hit a bit of a plateau. He's lazy with sounding out and instead will know the first letter of a new word and just guess from there, not wanting to take the time to sound out the word. It makes it hard for me to sit with him to read as any prompting to try again is met with resistance from him. I'm hoping to continue our reading routine this summer so he can at least maintain, but hopefully get over this plateau and start enjoying reading. He's very strong in math and decided to write a note to his teacher on his weekend worksheet to request 'harder math' :)





Sports have sort of started as a battle with George, but thankfully we're in a good place. Soccer went fine, but basketball he wasn't into at all, almost until after the season ended. Now it's both his and William's favorite sport and they're shooting baskets in the backyard every chance they can get. I think George's height really helped him. He hadn't caught on to dribbling or shooting much but he became known as the defender for his team and that was a huge boost of confidence. George has also started watching the Warriors playoff games with Dave and has gotten really into it. Just last night when I told him his hand-me-down Warriors shirt had a hole, he asked if I could get him a Steph Curry jersey to replace it. Baseball was another story. He didn't want to play in the first place, but I encouraged him and then just decided to sign him up anyway, telling him it's the only year no one else (for the most part) will know what they're doing so he'd be the same level as everyone else. He did just fine, was able to hit some of the balls, but it was a battle. He never wanted to go to the games, constantly yelled at me for signing him up, even though he seemed to have fun once he was there. When the season ended both he and William said they didn't want to play again, so we'll see if they change their mind when sign ups roll around next year. I'm not going to push it again though.




George has enjoyed Acrosports and this last session he chose to do football when William was in drawing class and has fun with that. I think he still does best when he comes home and gets a bit of quiet time to himself. He can get very grumpy after school if he hasn't gotten a snack.




We've had some challenges with George's behavior, though thankfully it's been very minimal at school. The last month, there's been more limit-testing, especially when he gets in his silly-mode and just can't get out of it and then it leads to him mocking me when I'm trying to set limits or discipline. It was pretty trying the week Dave was gone so I've started reading multiple parenting books to try to come up with a plan that Dave and I can stick to. When George is tired or hungry, he can get really angry and won't do anything asked (doesn't sound too much out of the norm, huh?) but there's lots of mean things said, push-back on absolutely everything. George used to be such a good helper and I've found that many times I'm finding myself asking the same things over and over and I'm met with not just resistance, but mean words. Again, I realize this is typical for this age but I'm keen to find the best way to work on it now so it doesn't escalate.

When at home, George loves to listen to audio books, play with lego sets that William has mostly built, or set up the castle and play with the different characters. He loves watching Wild Kratts and has become almost obsessed with animal facts. He always would ask Dave, 'who would win, a lion or a cobra?' for example. I go to the library often and bring home boys I think each boy will like, usually fairy tales or similar for William and animal books for George. I came across a Deadliest Creatures book and I think we've renewed it 3 times now. Since the, we've discovered a Who Would Win series, clearly written by another dad who had been asked similar questions over and over :) George now has about 8 of these deadliest creature-type books checked out and just loves them. We read the same facts over and over and I can't skip a part or he notices. He knows when the book is 'wrong' when they've listed the second-biggest/strongest etc as something different than he's learned.





George has made a lot of improvement walking into school each day and shaking hands with the Head of School. She'll still stop him if he rushes past with just handshake and doesn't look her in the eye for a greeting. He still has a ways to go in greeting people, speaking up and answering adults but it's improving. Up until very recently, he still wanted to be walked to his classroom every day. He was fine going in and never had problems with the transition, but just wanted me to walk him in.




Eating always goes through waves for George. Quantity has never been an issue, he still is able to consume a huge amount of food. He eats similar portions to Dave if he likes what's being offered. The last month has been more challenging though, with him complaining about most dinners. We instated a rule one Coco was old enough to be listening to what they were saying about the food, you don't have to eat it, but you can't yuck the yum. For the most part this was working, but lately George has been very upset when he doesn't like the dinner, complaining, be disruptive and ultimately not eating. Dave and I are firm about not offering alternatives. He knows he can always get his back-up food cottage cheese, but he rarely does. It's tough because usually he's tired and hungry and that's part of the reason he's acting the way he is, so he needs food, but won't try what's offered. He seems to be getting pickier, like today at lunch he ordered buttered noodles as he thought the bread on the grilled cheese was going to be too thick, but the noodles had parmesan cheese on it. To his credit, he did try it, but he didn't like it. His list of 5 fruits has dwindled again, but thankfully he drinks smoothies which I jam-pack with fruits and veggies. This is one of those things that we have to go back to the drawing board every six months or so and work with him to come up with a new plan. Then it works for a bit and then slowly shifts into needing a revamp as well. At school, unless it's one of G's favorite days (pizza, burgers or hot dogs), he gets the same thing every day: a turkey sandwich. Back in October, we did a challenge where they at least tasted the main dish food served at lunch every day (and could go get something else if they didn't like it) and then the four of us went out to a nice dinner after as a reward. I think it helped William but G not so much.

George has so much energy (outside of those times he's grumpy and tired) and in general doesn't need much sleep. We started pulling G out of the bedroom after reading books so that W could go to sleep in peace. G plays in the other room, listens to an audiobook etc., and then once W is asleep, he can go in. There are many nights he comes up at nearly 9:00 saying he's not tired yet. Most of the time he still wakes up on time, but there are times when he's up so late, I have to wake him for school. I still think he needs more sleep, but it's been hard to get him to fall asleep.




STATS:
weight: 60lbs 8oz (50lbs 1 year ago)
height: 49.2 inches (46 inches 1 year ago)
shoe size: 1
clothes:  6, but pants are getting tight, so some 7 too





George, you are sweet, loving but also so particular. Any shift in the routine and you're very upset. Of course, changes are sometimes necessary and we try so hard to talk you through things beforehand to ease the stress. You're very much like me though, so I can't blame you. You want to know all the options before you make a decision. You're gonna bring up any doubts and question the plan. If you think you're not going to like something, you likely won't try it or if you do, it will take a lot to admit you actually do like it. William and I are reading Harry Potter and you stated right from the beginning that you didn't want to read it. A few chapters in, after a particularly dramatic part, you admitted that you actually did like it (though seem to have gone back on that too). You did the same when we moved on from Magic Treehouse books to A to Z Mysteries. You were totally against trying the new books but ended up loving them. I do have to give you credit because you certainly don't just go along with the crowd. You know what you like and won't change to please someone else. There are some boys at school you like to play with but they all like Pokemon and you don't so they don't want to play with you much. Dad offered to teach you about Pokemon but you said you had no interest in learning about it. I love to see you enjoying basketball so much and feeling good about yourself. You give yourself a hard time so often, telling me your drawings or terrible, you're not good at reading or your writing is bad. It makes me so sad to hear you talk like this. It can be frustrating to feel like you're not good at something, or be comparing yourself to your twin, so I really love it when you find something that builds your confidence. You are still very sweet with Coco and you're two peas in a pod. She's so much like you and loves spending time with you. I'm so glad you seek her out and love being with her too. Lately she calls down to ask which pajamas you're wearing so she can match your lions or where her cars if you're doing one of your vehicle pairs. You love having time with Dad and I and are the first to request your special time as often as you can (and the others quickly follow suit). You love to play board games and card games and are a good competitor. Your sportsmanship has gotten much better too. You struggle a bit with rushing through things, whether going potty, making your bed or keeping yourself clean. You're excellent at cleaning up though, always putting everything that you've played with during quiet time or bedtime away, without being asked. You're sensitive, but quite verbal about it. When something upsets you and your voice starts to quiver, you're usually able to keep yourself calm enough to talk, and I'm always amazed at how in touch with your feelings you are and you can tell me exactly what's bothering you. You're still all about fairness which can be so hard to deal with sometimes but is so important to you. You are so smart and if you take your time, I know you will go even further. In your next year, I hope your confidence continues to grow and you open yourself up to trying new things, you're sure to find something you love. Oh, and keeping digging your holes and asking me to take pictures of you in them :) We love you George!






William, 6 Years Old




As their kindergarten year winds down and as I think about where the boys were last year, it's amazing to see how much they've grown. I do lunch duty often at their school and within an hour and a half, you see the lunch room grow from the smallest boys to the biggest... 8th graders who are well over 6 feet tall. Now in May, even the kindergarteners look bigger and don't seem almost too-small to be at this big-kid school. William and George had their switch day on Friday, a day last year when they first visited Town for a 'real' school day. This year, they spent the morning in the first grade rooms. They've both had a great first year of school and while I think both prefer being home with mom and dad most, they both really like Town School. Dave and I have been so impressed with every aspect of the school and the community and feel so lucky the boys get to be in such a creative and caring school environment that brings out the best in teaching only boys.

Excited about crazy hair day, until he got to school


William makes friends easily and has a crew of boys he plays with regularly. Currently shooting baskets or playing tag is their game of choice. It took a little while to get going with reading for him -- he didn't like learning the basic sight words but he's doing great now, moving up reading levels quickly, reading sentences smoothly, sounding out when needed and with good comprehension. He seems to enjoy reading which is most important and has loved being able to read to Coco. He's at a point where he can read some of the 'regular' non-early reader books, like Little Critter, some Peppa Pig, etc. which is always going to be more fun than the Bob books for example. William does seem motivated to get better as he loves stories and is anxious to be able to read them on his own. We're 100 pages into the first Harry Potter book and he's loving it. Math doesn't come as naturally to him, but he's still on track.



We've had some ups and downs with William's behavior this year. Though the transition to school went pretty well, by November we were getting lots of tantrums and attitude. We worked hard to make sure he was getting a snack right after school and getting him to bed early, and though I'm not sure that did the trick, it did get better. We've continued to go through some phases of limit-testing and pushing buttons. I think some of it, at least recently, seems to stem from the close relationship George and Coco have. There was a period where they'd play a game where George would say, 'I love you so much, you're my best friend' and then Coco would say, 'you're my best friend' and then at some point it entered in that William was not her best friend because he's mean (which George may or may not have told her). William has acted out on this, both to Coco by pushing her buttons, bugging her, trying to upset her, but also just in general. For the most part, this behavior has only been at home which I guess is where you want it to be, but we have had a few minor instances of behavior I know William knows better than doing. I'm still working on how to parent through these as William isn't one to feel guilty or admit guilt easily, if ever. He'll be mad at me and super-upset in general about losing shows, but at least outwardly, not upset over what he actually did wrong. It drives me nuts as it makes me feel like I'm raising a kid who is not learning from his mistakes but one of Coco's teachers who I talked to about it and has a lot of experience with young kids reminded me that less talk in these situations is actually better and that the point is not to make them feel guilty, they'll feel that in their own way. I'm working on not lecturing so much...



William tried out soccer, basketball and baseball through school this year and while there are certainly kids who are quite impressive athletes already (and who have played these team sports even before kindergarten), William is naturally athletic, or at least similar to Dave, picks things up quickly enough to be a good team player, even if not the best. He was a great defender for soccer. He height didn't help much for basketball, but he and George have been so into it lately that they've been practicing a lot and William's shooting is quite good, and consistent. Baseball was a struggle for both, but William has a good stance and made some really solid hits toward the end of the season. Though being good isn't the only reason to push continuing with something, I thought it may be making it more fun for William but he is firming against continuing baseball next year. Acrosports has been a fun activity outside of school for them to do this last session and they've made some friends with the other boys in the class.


We avoided most of the other after-school activities outside of sports as we were really focused on giving the boys enough down time but this last session, we did let them each choose one enrichment class and William chose drawing. He's really enjoyed it and likes the other kindergarteners in the class but I think the class may be too easy for him so I'm starting to look into something else. He still loves drawing in the evenings. A week or two ago, he learned how to make the rubber band bracelets and that's been a huge hit.



William is social with kids but still pretty quiet and shy when it comes to adults. We're still working on social skills of speaking up, looking people in the eye, proper greetings, etc. His eating is pretty good, he's much more willing to try new foods than he used to be though there are certainly nights when he's putting on quite a performance of eating multiple green beans and nonchalantly saying, 'oh ya, this is my third one', and then other nights that he's tired/grumpy and refuses to even look at the dinner. They boys get served lunch at school every day, no one brings lunch. There's always a sandwich bar, soup, salad bar and then hot item of the day - quesadillas/beans/rice/veggie and fruit, hamburgers/fries/veggie and fruit, pasta, chicken tenders, pizza etc. The food is high quality and good, I eat it at the end of my lunch duty shift. There are plenty of options and many kids stick to the same thing every day. William has done a great job of getting some of the hot item each day, which despite the list of foods I shared, I think is the more adventurous and varied choice. He now eats beans regularly when he has Mexican food, tries a little rice, etc., will eat some veggies so I feel like it has helped him.



William still needs more sleep than George and is typically asleep before 8 and then usually up by the time their sun clock comes on at 6:45. Some days I'll have to wake him up for school, but not usually.



William loves listening to audio books, actually building the lego sets step-by-step and riding his bike. He doesn't wear a button-down shirt and bow tie every day like he did the first half of the year but he still is more conscious of how he looks and likes to look nice. He's been very into learning to tie his shoes (we don't have any with laces) and I promised the next size we need to buy I'll get him tie shoes.

A new allergy center recently opened down on the peninsula and they're doing some cutting-edge treatments. I was able to get William an appointment earlier in the month so we're considering going through with the process of trying to build tolerance for him to have fish. It requires many 2-hour long appointments and it's a 45-minute drive without traffic (and you can really only have a midday appointment to avoid traffic) so we're weighing the options. William really wants to be able to eat fish and while that would be the ultimate goal (and is likely if we fulfill the treatment), building a tolerance for cross-contamination would be what we're working towards.

STATS:  
weight: 43lbs 2oz (38lbs 1 year ago) 
height: 44.2 inches (42.5 inches 1 year ago) 
shoe size: 12
clothes: most 5T, some 6





William, you're almost finished with kindergarten and you're ready for first grade. You've made a great group of friends and enjoy playing with Ryan, Reed, Jackson, Ellsworth, Alexander H. and G., among others. You can get really silly and crazy with your friends, sometimes a bit too wild, and you have trouble getting out of that. You love any part of school that lets you draw and luckily as you're still learning how to write full sentences, there's plenty of room for story-telling through drawing. You've enjoyed your drawing class and chosen to spend your special time teaching me, Dad, Papa and Dedee how to draw what you've learned. Your focus is impressive and your skill is improving each day but there are still times you get frustrated when it's not just how you like it. You have very neat handwriting, though writing some numbers facing the right direction still gets you. You still love your Sam and Buddy and I've needed to make some repairs here and there. You're an excellent bed-maker, taking the time to take everything off your bed each morning, pulling up the sheet, laying everything just so. You prefer to take your own bath now, George is too dirty for you. You're also getting more aware of your body and want privacy when in the bathroom or when changing in public. I don't think you're the shortest in your class, but there's a group of maybe 5 boys who are all around your height. In general, you're fine with it, but any mention of The Beast (a ride G is tall enough but you're not) and things erupt. You love back scratches and cuddles. You love fantasy, shows and performances. Dad loves watching you watch a performance. You have a short fuse and it's something we continue to work on. Especially when you're tired or hungry, you are quick to hit, kick or just lose it in general. The 5-minute ride home from school is often the worst time of the day for you and George. You're quick to say, 'I wish I didn't have a brother!' or 'You're the worst mom in the world!'. On the flip side, you're very good with manners and are the most consistent with saying please when asking for things. You have these periods where you're trying to be a great kid -- tasting everything, being extra patient, using your manners and saying thank you for everything, asking how you can help. It's definitely one extreme that only happens here and there, but it's appreciated nonetheless. You have the natural ability to notice things and tell me when I look pretty. You have great focus and when enjoying something like drawing or building a lego set, you can sit there for hours (especially with an audiobook on in the background, your favorite!). My hope for you this next year is that you continue to try to new things, be a kind friend and learn to take a deep breath when you'd rather hit something or scream (this is something everyone deals with!). We love you William!